Human relationships are a very complex thing, and sometimes it can be hard to differentiate your thoughts and feelings about someone. This is exactly the case when it comes to marriage as well. Of course, most of the time things turn out well, and you manage to sort out anything that was bothering you. But, sometimes, certain signs can appear in your marriage, which usually signals that you might want to reconsider it.
1. You do not want to spend too much time together
Even though love relationships change over time, there should always be that special spark between a couple. That spark is something that makes you want to spend time with the other person, hear about their thoughts and feelings. If this is something that is mostly lacking in your marriage, think about why it is like that. Of course, everyone needs some time to unwind. But if you are constantly avoiding spending time with each other, you should maybe reconsider your marriage after all.
2. You have already discussed separation
Of course, in every couple’s relationship, there will be some ups and downs. But, if you are already discussing which is better, legal separation vs divorce, it might be the time to terminate your marriage. By the point of discussing such things, both of you have probably thought everything through and feel like it is time to reconsider.
3. You avoid uncomfortable conversations
If you are not able to have an uncomfortable conversation with your spouse, you probably do not feel too comfortable around them anymore. In any love relationship, communication is crucial. And if you cannot communicate well anymore, think about how good your relationship is anymore. You should be able to share anything you want with your spouse. If you cannot do that, it might be a red flag.
4. They embarrass you in public
It is one thing if your partner teases you now and then, but if they constantly do it, and if they keep embarrassing you in public, that might be a warning sign. There is no reason why your spouse should embarrass you in front of strangers, your friends, your coworkers, or anyone else. They should be embracing you in front of them, and not embarrassing you. Make sure to tell them not to do that. If it keeps on continuing, you might want to reconsider your marriage.
5. You are the last one to find out everything
Even though there is not a strict hierarchy in which you have to inform people about things, it still makes sense that you first tell your spouse. So, if you notice that you are the last one to find out about everything, consider it a red flag. If your spouse had some great news, but you found out from their friends, and not from them, you might want to wonder why they did not tell you first. Do they not feel the need to share their happiness with you anymore? It is disrespectful to you as their spouse to treat you this way and can create an unpleasant image about your marriage to other people.
6. You feel lonely most of the time
Your spouse should be there for you when you need companionship and emotional support. If these needs of yours are not being met, it is normal if you feel lonely even in their presence. If you feel more comfortable being alone than being with your spouse, it also shows that they are not being there for you in the way you need them. Moreover, if they refuse to participate in things you like to do then that loneliness might be even worse. As you spend most of your time with your spouse, if they, say, refuse to go to cook dinner with you, think again about the quality of your relationship.
7. Your partner refuses to go to counseling
If you and your spouse have already managed to identify problems in your marriage, but your spouse refuses to go to counseling, think about how much they actually care about your marriage. If they do not want to seek help to solve the problems you are having, they probably do not even care if you do not have a good relationship. This is, of course, a major warning sign and it is best if you reconsider your marriage.
Seeing marriage problems can sometimes be difficult. Sometimes it is because you consider all things that are happening normal, and sometimes it is due to subconscious denial. If you have noticed any of the things mentioned in this article, make sure to reconsider your marriage. There is no need to hold onto something if it is not making you happy.